Whilst this is predominantly a Fashion blog, once in a while, you will get to see poetry (yup, I am a sucker for poetry, lol!) and all that mushy stuff, along with addressing other lifestyle matters. Afterall, fashion is indeed a lifestyle in itself.
Being a young adult, getting married is all the rave right now. All my friend's and friends of their friends are either engaged or married. The rest are all hoping that someday soon, Prince Charming will show up and whisk them away!
Love, without a doubt is a very beautiful thing. Marriage on the other hand, is a very huge step to take. The question now is, after the whole "buhaha" of dating and getting engaged, are you really ready to get married? Decide for yourself, but not before you read this...
Don't Get Married If...
If you’re not ready to delay gratification when you are angry. To hold your tongue, lower your voice and sometimes wait till the appropriate time, day or even month before you can deal with an issue thoroughly…. don’t get married. Immaturity is the inability to delay gratification. Marriage is for the mature.
If you’re not ready to leave centre stage and allow someone else to become your focus, your study, your muse… don’t get married. Selfish people make very bad spouses. In marriage you don’t lose yourself, but your heart has to be big enough to gain someone else. And soon, with God’s blessing: little, crying, diaper soiling, demanding little ones are coming!
If you are not ready, to stand up and calmly deal with meddling in laws as a united front: The opinionated sister, the insensitive uncle, the domineering father, the manner less brother, the nosy aunt… don’t get married. Boundaries do not exist automatically; they must be created. A good spouse is committed to respectfully stand up for and protect their marriage from meddling relatives. Don’t abandon your spouse to your relatives. It’s betrayal.
If you are not ready to pay bills...don’t get married. Love does not pay bills. Nobody will give you a waiver when the bills pile up because your love is "oh- so-strong" and your gazes at each other, are "oh-so-romantic".
If you are not ready to let, go of your opposite sex “best friends” and invest that into your spouse. To like, to laugh, to play, to be silly and to enjoy life with them, above anyone else… don’t get married. Affairs happen because people did not marry their best friends. Someone else holds their heart. Someone else gets them better. Someone else inspires them more. Marry your best friend and cultivate your friendship so that you remain best friends.
If you are not ready to stop competing with the Joneses…. don’t get married. Let the Joneses buy their yacht when you are still walking and enjoy the walk. Your journeys are different. They may have to cross the oceans, but you may be going through the road route. A boat might not do you any good on your journey. You must be ready to pace yourselves: stop competing, stop spending your future before you get there, stop the debt, stop trying to impress people. You must be able to be content. To enjoy your journey without deciding your happiness simply by measuring your progress against other people.
If you are not ready to be an open book. To tell the whole story of your past, deal with the memories, expose the failures and risk rejection…. don’t get married. It is fraud to have someone sign off their life to you without the full details. The past is a touchy and demanding friend. It always shows up in the marriage. It doesn’t enjoy being ignored and the more you snob, the bolder it becomes and the more tantrums it throws. It will mess up the “neat” and “all together lovely” image that you are struggling to maintain.
If you are not ready to let go of your philandering and wild oats farming…. don’t get married. Don’t take somebody’s son or daughter and subject them to your germs, your indiscretions. It never ends well. It’s romanticized in the movies; it’s being fronted as the only “realistic” way to stay married and keep the fire burning. But truth be told, the only thing that the fire will burn will be you, your spouse and your children. That family will burn for generations in bitterness, disease, fear, failure, hatred, broken hearts, broken dreams and conniving.
Finally, if you are not ready to let go of the adrenalin rush of a risqué life and to settle down…. don’t get married. The great Colombus had a diary that was long sought for. People wanted to read about the wild journeys, the sea tempest, the reckless pirates they fought, the death and the danger they must have encountered. When it was found, there was great disappointment. Majority of the pages simply had 5 words: “This day, we sailed on.”.
After reading this, the big question is "Are you ready for Marriage?"
Hope you enjoyed reading this and hopefully, this helps someone...
Love & Fashion,
DivaNista...
Love, without a doubt is a very beautiful thing. Marriage on the other hand, is a very huge step to take. The question now is, after the whole "buhaha" of dating and getting engaged, are you really ready to get married? Decide for yourself, but not before you read this...
Don't Get Married If...
If you’re not ready to delay gratification when you are angry. To hold your tongue, lower your voice and sometimes wait till the appropriate time, day or even month before you can deal with an issue thoroughly…. don’t get married. Immaturity is the inability to delay gratification. Marriage is for the mature.
If you’re not ready to leave centre stage and allow someone else to become your focus, your study, your muse… don’t get married. Selfish people make very bad spouses. In marriage you don’t lose yourself, but your heart has to be big enough to gain someone else. And soon, with God’s blessing: little, crying, diaper soiling, demanding little ones are coming!
If you are not ready, to stand up and calmly deal with meddling in laws as a united front: The opinionated sister, the insensitive uncle, the domineering father, the manner less brother, the nosy aunt… don’t get married. Boundaries do not exist automatically; they must be created. A good spouse is committed to respectfully stand up for and protect their marriage from meddling relatives. Don’t abandon your spouse to your relatives. It’s betrayal.
If you are not ready to pay bills...don’t get married. Love does not pay bills. Nobody will give you a waiver when the bills pile up because your love is "oh- so-strong" and your gazes at each other, are "oh-so-romantic".
If you are not ready to let, go of your opposite sex “best friends” and invest that into your spouse. To like, to laugh, to play, to be silly and to enjoy life with them, above anyone else… don’t get married. Affairs happen because people did not marry their best friends. Someone else holds their heart. Someone else gets them better. Someone else inspires them more. Marry your best friend and cultivate your friendship so that you remain best friends.
If you are not ready to stop competing with the Joneses…. don’t get married. Let the Joneses buy their yacht when you are still walking and enjoy the walk. Your journeys are different. They may have to cross the oceans, but you may be going through the road route. A boat might not do you any good on your journey. You must be ready to pace yourselves: stop competing, stop spending your future before you get there, stop the debt, stop trying to impress people. You must be able to be content. To enjoy your journey without deciding your happiness simply by measuring your progress against other people.
If you are not ready to be an open book. To tell the whole story of your past, deal with the memories, expose the failures and risk rejection…. don’t get married. It is fraud to have someone sign off their life to you without the full details. The past is a touchy and demanding friend. It always shows up in the marriage. It doesn’t enjoy being ignored and the more you snob, the bolder it becomes and the more tantrums it throws. It will mess up the “neat” and “all together lovely” image that you are struggling to maintain.
If you are not ready to let go of your philandering and wild oats farming…. don’t get married. Don’t take somebody’s son or daughter and subject them to your germs, your indiscretions. It never ends well. It’s romanticized in the movies; it’s being fronted as the only “realistic” way to stay married and keep the fire burning. But truth be told, the only thing that the fire will burn will be you, your spouse and your children. That family will burn for generations in bitterness, disease, fear, failure, hatred, broken hearts, broken dreams and conniving.
Finally, if you are not ready to let go of the adrenalin rush of a risqué life and to settle down…. don’t get married. The great Colombus had a diary that was long sought for. People wanted to read about the wild journeys, the sea tempest, the reckless pirates they fought, the death and the danger they must have encountered. When it was found, there was great disappointment. Majority of the pages simply had 5 words: “This day, we sailed on.”.
After reading this, the big question is "Are you ready for Marriage?"
Hope you enjoyed reading this and hopefully, this helps someone...
Love & Fashion,
DivaNista...
GBAM!well written-Extreme truth!
ReplyDeleteTrue. Nice 1. Summary's marry your best friend.
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